A friend is a person with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically one exclusive of family relations.
Looking at just the meaning nulifies some of the friendships, this is meant to be mutual, as ladies we tend to have more people around us than the men, you find you have a long list of people you call friends.In high school for example I had so many people who called me friend , for some reason I was known by the whole school as someone to talk to, I listened to so many people and I was always available for people regardless of what I felt inside
Even way after school I found myself in the same spot,all I knew was to be a friend but deep down I knew I didn’t have friends, no one knew what ever bothered me or even what made me happy, am not saying the ones around me were bad, on the contrary they tried to reach me but just didn’t know how.
Then recently I met two ladies that made me laugh, they were so effortlessly reaching me even without trying, it felt strange yet it was so beautiful, for once I felt I didn’t have to try so hard or so much to be liked, I didn’t have to take care of them instead they wanted to take care of me.
It’s a beautiful feeling that has taught me that friendship is a give and take, most times we spend time with people who are just taking from us or we are the ones bring given all the time, we need to learn to take and give in return, but if you are like me and taking is hard ,try it out and see, people love you and all they need is to put your guard down and enjoy the feeling.
So how do you nature the friendship
Spend time together– it’s interesting how when you spend time with someone you find they become more agreeable. even the things that were not good about the person you get to appreciate them when you spend time with them or atleast just take the person as they are.
Eat together– sharing a meal with someone is one of the greatest things about friendship, when you share a meal it tells you alot about this person and it’s intimate in it’s own way.
Play together– as the saying goes all work and no play makes Jane a dull girl, playing with someone brings you closer and makes life so much fun, life is too short to be serious
Be open with each other– this is a hard paper for me but it helps alot to just open up and share with a friend, Everytime one person is the one sharing and you are not, it puts people down, open up and greatness awaits.
The list is long but let’s do that now and enjoy the river of friendship
